Juz tot of a topic which i feel like blogging abt to kick-start Sept... It's abt the Meaning of Friendship. As i grow older, i realise my defination of friendship has changed abit, but the foundation is still veri much the same! Frankly, i tink that my EQ is veri low (neither high IQ ;p), esp when i was much younger (bef 15yrs or so), i was veri much an introvert, hehe! However, i still got close pals along the way, thou these ppl whom i knew in my younger days drifted off when we went to diff sec schs.
As my self-confidence gradually build-up, i trusted veri much on my 6th sense on selecting whom to befriend. 3yrs of poly-life was really really the best time of my life, for which our class sizes r less than 20 & easier to forge closer friendships after u almost study/eat & breathe tog on campus + fighting like 5 proj deadlines at the same time! During our holis, we would have class outings at East Coast Park etc... so memorable ya! Till tis day, we would still mention Ms ML, haha! Each of us opted for diff path & about half r married by now... Diff life stages means drifting apart? I not too sure since i'm always the laggard, haha! Juz dismayed that our friendship built up over the years had meant lesser to some ppl (perhaps). Hence, i concluded that it's NOT how long u know a fren that matters, it's whether u take the initiative to continue the connection that matters.
Wat's the meaning of friendship?
Friendship is a relationship forged when 2 strangers got closer & felt a need to know each other better. It's thru certain experience(s) together that pull them closer... One can survive without a love rship, but not without something call Friendship. If u tink back in ur life & u do not have someone close enuf to be ur trusty pal, then so sorry, u r probably a selfish soul, hence no one wana be ur fren!
Friendship is about being sincere. For one, i tink i'm pretty transparent to my close frens, i do not know how to conceal my true feelings much. Cos i also dislike guessing abt people's feelings...I'm not a saint. But if u r a true fren, u wld accept me as a package. The package used to be more jokey thou, now older liao...lesser , haha! (it's really v hard to be the clown all the times!)
You will see who r your true friends when you have nothing (no fame, no $, nothing)... serious. 當你一無所有的時候，也是友情大考驗的時候。In my life to date, I had experience 2 utterly failed friendships. The after-effects r akin to the after-earthquakes' tremors, on & off, i still could feel the pain. It does make me more skeptical & be more cautious on placing my trust. Perhaps it's part & parcel of growing up (& wising up)! My happy experiences at this NOTHING stage is the little things i observe... strangely, my close frens r the type who action rather than verbal sort... they would do surprise stuff like insisting to pay my share of the food, and buy small & priceless stuff like a small pack of cute korean biscuits for me... seriously, i'm touched! I tink i'm getting more emo as i aged leh! U noe, i've a secret liking too... that's when my super 細心 fren scoop food for me, such as knowing i hate the spring onion, unnie(older sis) would remove it auto for me, then scoop the porridge into my bowl, haha! I really enjoy being the little gal, u know? (this is even better svc than at home lo!)
Real frens r ppl whom u can sit side by side, yet say nothing...but u still feel great wif her accompanying u.
True frens can read ur mind (at times), which i called telepathy...had experienced it & I would ask myself why? I realise as u develop a chemistry wif someone, u would unwittingly read her mind!
My pet peeve is abt betrayal of trust... trust takes a long time to build, but juz need a second to break! I realise once trust is broken, it's totally irrevocable! Esp if i gave someone a 2nd chance, this little bit of trust is still being breached...then...too bad, i tink we juz couldn't deceive ourselves anymore.
Last but not least, i tink true frens would wan to share both good & bad news... if u tink u r helping ur fren by concealing negative news...then u r not treating the person as ur best pal! Also, why dun share happy news....recently, i got a shock knowing one of my married gfs is pregnant, bt she din initiate to tell me, despite it's juz a few more mths to due date! Hmm... time isn't the best indicator of a friendship...it's the little minute stuff which bind the friendship that matter!
堅固的友誼是需要相輔相襯的，想像一個天平，如果只有單方的付出，另一方一直在接納而已，這樣是不行的。。。(one needs to give & take in a friendship; like finding a balance on a scale, if juz one giving party, while the other is always on the receiving end, the friendship would never work out)
Do not walk in front of me; do not walk behind me; walk besides me & be my friend...for i would not leave u out of sight (esp during our travel ^_* )
